Top 10 Tips For Coming Out
Tips for Coming Out
For a lot of people, coming out and affirming your identity is a nerve-wracking and challenging experience. Often times, the fear of exposing your true self is met with warmth, love and acceptance. However, for some the experience leads to feelings of abandonment, misunderstanding and isolation.
As a queer-owned business, Out Cosmetics stands with the LGBTQ+ community and understands the fear and uncertainty faced when coming out – no matter the age you choose to do it.
Here, we’ve put together 10 of our top tips on coming out.
Self-Acceptance is Comes First
When coming out, the most important person to come out to is yourself. Accepting and loving yourself for who you are gives you strength, comfort and power. No one can strip you of the love you give yourself.
No matter who you are, you deserve to love and to be loved – and that starts with you.
Surround Yourself with Love
Remember; you’re not alone. The LGBTQ+ community spans across the entire world and is full of love and support. There are many communities and individuals who you can talk to, share concerns and experiences and go to ask for advice.
If you’re unsure where to start, maybe seek out some LGBTQ+ YouTube channels and Instagram profiles. Out Cosmetics is proud to be part of the LGBTQ+ community.
Tell Someone Close
Before coming out to a wider audience, we advise to test the waters and talk to the person closest to you, someone you trust more than anyone. This may be your best friend, close family member or a teacher.
After you’ve opened up, you may feel more confident coming out to others and you’ll be able to talk to this person about coming out and they’ll support your process. There is no rush to tell everyone all at once. Do it at your own pace – coming out isn’t a race!
Bring Up the Topic
If you want to navigate your friends or families beliefs and feelings surround LGBTQ+, you could gauge their reaction by sharing articles, photos and videos from the community or discuss LGBTQ+ news in person.
Doing this will give you an idea on how they feel about it and can open up avenues for more discussions in the future.
Special Event not Necessary
Across social media and maybe even in social circles around you, you may feel some coming out and holding a big event to celebrate. If the very idea of coming out to a crowd of people fills you with dread, that’s okay. This doesn’t have to be the way you do it, too. What works for them may not work for you and that’s okay.
No matter how you choose to come out, it doesn’t make you any less a part of the LGBTQ+ community and doesn’t devalue your “seriousness”.
You Are Protected
Your school, college, university and workplace have a legal obligation to care for your safety, wellbeing and provide you with the same opportunities as anyone else. Many of these places are beginning to recognise the importance of supporting individuals and offer LGBTQ+ support groups and staff are often trained to tackle homophobia.
Prepare for The Worst
Unfortunately, some people experience hate and misunderstanding when they come out to friends and family. Preparing for this is the best way to keep yourself safe and reduce risk.
We recommend having someone with you who you trust and already knows, and a bag packed with your essentials and important documents for you to take should you need to stay elsewhere for an extended period of time.
Give People Time
As we’ve said, there are unfortunately going to be instances where people don’t react positively, but sometimes people need a little time to digest, do their own research and come to terms with what you told them.
During this time, they may have a lot of questions but don’t feel pressured to answer them. You don’t owe anyone an explanation and you needn’t answer questions that make you feel uncomfortable.
Some People are Worth Losing
With all this being said, if someone you love and care for reacts a negative way and refuses to accept you for who you are, they’re not worth having around. This may mean you lose some friends along your coming out journey, but not every friend you lose is a loss.
Those who you don’t lose, you know their worthy of your love and friendship. Quality relationships over quantity of relationships!
You Don’t Have to Label Yourself
Society is obsessed with labels, but that doesn’t you have to label yourself to be understood, accepted and loved. You may feel there is no one label that best represents you! And that’s okay.
Out Cosmetics Supports You
We will forever support our community and stand for our rights. There is a community who accepts you for you. Here at OUT Cosmetics, we pride ourselves on being part of this community.
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